Monday, October 5, 2015

Life Advice List

Life isn't fair, but it's still good.

When in doubt, just take the next small step.

Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

Pay off your credit cards every month.

You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.

Save for retirement, starting with your first paycheck.

Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.

It's OK to let your children see you cry.

Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.

Life is too short for long pity parties. Get busy living, or get busy dying.

You can get through anything if you stay put in today.

A writer writes. If you want to be a writer, write.

It's never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.

When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.

Burn the candles; use the nice sheets; wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

Overprepare, then go with the flow.

Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.

The most important sex organ is the brain.

No one is in charge of your happiness except you.

Frame every so-called disaster with these words: "In five years, will this matter?"

Forgive everyone everything.

What other people think of you is none of your business.

Time heals almost everything. Give time time.

However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

Believe in miracles.

Growing old beats the alternative -- dying young.

Your children get only one childhood. Make it memorable.

Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.

Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.

All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

The best is yet to come.

No matter how you feel, get up, dress up, and show up.

Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

If you don't ask, you don't get.


Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift

Always maintain a good sense of humor.

Never be too good to start at the bottom.

Exercise every single day, even when you don't feel like it.

Don't spend more money than you make.

Love at first sight is not a fable.

Your family is the most precious thing you will ever have in life.

Your life is delicate, and if you neglect yourself, you'll spoil.

Don't ever be afraid to be your true self.

You must be able to forgive, even if it's difficult to do.

Save your money now and spend it later.

Love is not always easy; sometimes you have to work at it.

Find something comical in every single situation.

If you're faced with a problem, don't delay trying to figure it out. But if there's no way to figure it out, you have to forget about it.

Make sure you're doing what you love; don't be afraid to follow those dreams you have for yourself.

Education is important, but life can be an education in itself.

Explore your world and stay curious.

Try not to take yourself so seriously.

Have common sense. Think about the most reasonable answer to every situation. If you don't have common sense, you're a bust.

Life is a gift that you must unwrap. It's up to you to determine if what's inside will lead you to happiness or dismay. You have the power to make that decision for yourself.

Sunday, October 4, 2015

The Ohio State Football Program Covers of Fred Machetanz

The 1929 season introduced the first program cover illustrations by a young Ohio State graduate by the name of Frederick Machetanz, whose varied yet uniformly striking styles were to grace the Buckeye programs for another 13 years. This particular cover was drawn in the famous "fadeaway" style of the popular illustrator Coles Phillips, and if you didn't know better, with the gold and black colors you'd think it was an Iowa program. After World War II Machetanz moved to Alaska, and for more than 50 years became known as one of that state's finest regional artists, still active until just before his passing in 2002.

Saturday, October 3, 2015

Michelle Combs: Huffpost Blog Post: Being an Adult Child of a Narcissist

People who are confident in any skill amaze me.

It doesn't matter if the skill is working on a car or playing a guitar or balancing a ledger sheet. They know what the results will be when they begin their task and then they do it.

I can't remember ever beginning a task with the absolute knowledge that I could complete it without a problem.

There is one thing, however, at which I am an expert. I am an expert at being the adult child of a narcissist. I have had decades of experience.

Here are the basics:

No intimacy: You learn at a very young age that trusting another person to protect you or your feelings is a mistake. Best to never really give your feelings away because it's just not safe. Sure, it's lonely to keep a barrier up at all times, but we do what we have to do. I've proven time and time again that I can reject intimacy with ease. Hell, the fact that I've been married three times is a testament to that!

Accept that you are unlovable: No one really likes you. You are flawed in way too many ways. You're not that bright. You're never going to coast on charm or looks and you really aren't very good at anything.

You will never know what you want to be when you grow up: How can you know what you want for your life when your formative years are spent being forced to be a reflection of a narcissistic parent? Oh, and you failed at that. Whatever choices you made were wrong so you learn to understand that your own instincts can't possibly be trusted.

You pick up some nasty little narcissistic traits of your own: You desperately want to be clever or have the best or the worst of something. Anything to make sure you are in the spot light. Of course, what happens if you do find yourself in the spotlight, is that you want to run from it. You are not a narcissist, you were just raised by one and wanting to be the center of attention is just something you understand because you saw that grandiose behavior every day. When you actually find yourself at the center of attention, you either want to run away from it because it is horribly uncomfortable or you run away from it because you know you don't deserve it.

Become emotionally overwhelmed when dealing with other narcissists: I can spot a narcissist fairly easily. I loathe having to deal with them. I loathe my reaction to them. I find that I am both terrified of them and their potential rage that I need a Xanax just to be in the same room with them. I also find myself with an internal rage against them. I want to hit them and force to to admit what dick heads they are. And they never will. A narcissist is perfect. They can do no wrong and they are never wrong.

It's taken me years to get to where I am. I have a husband who didn't care how often I pushed him away, he cared enough about me to keep pushing back until I learned how to feel safe. I learned how to trust him with my feelings.

I began to suspect when I was in my twenties that it wasn't normal to assume everyone disliked me. I even remember the day. I was alone in my car after having just met someone for the first time. I don't remember who it was I met, but I remember this recurring thought "I know they don't like me. I wonder what I can do to make sure they change their mind"? A small voice spoke up and said "That's stupid. Why would they dislike you? They don't even know you".

I didn't turn that thinking around over night. I still deal with it, but on a much smaller scale. I am grateful that I recognized that it is unreasonable to believe that I am not lovable.

I still have no idea what I want to be when I grow up. I suspect that I may just have to accept this. I know I don't want to do what I'm doing now (career wise) but I've never changed it because I have no idea what else to do. Now I live my life outside of work. I'm sure it would be more satisfying to enjoy what I do, but I am grateful that I enjoy the life I have in the evenings, weekends, holidays, vacation days and sick days.

Accepting that we all have narcissistic tendencies was difficult. There is no shame with excelling at something. There isn't anything wrong with enjoying accolades. I suspect that I will always want them a little too much and always be uncomfortable when I receive them, but I'm making my peace with that as well.

I don't know that I will ever be able to deal with a narcissist without feeling some very powerful negative emotions. What I've learned to do is limit my contact with them as much as possible. I have no desire to argue with them and I will not put myself in a position to be abused by them. When it happens, I'd like my voice to be somewhere in between ineffectual and stark raving lunatic. As it were, those have been my two choices. I either make a weak attempt at sticking up for myself, or I completely lose my shit. It's possible that I won't improve much on that front either. Best to stick with my current plan of just limiting contact. I also find that making faces at them or flipping them off behind their back relieves the stress a bit.

I've been reading quite a bit about being the adult child of a narcissist and what I've read boils down to this: we're kind of screwed and probably need a lot of therapy.

I also know this for sure. I'm doing pretty damn good on my own. I've found strength and a voice that belong to just me.

Sure ... it's entirely possibly that I need boat loads of therapy, but I'm also fairly impressed that I've made it this far on my own.

I think there might be a lot of us out there. I didn't understand what it was to be raised by a narcissist. I stumbled upon this whole narcissism thing in the past few years and it explained so much to me. It didn't fix my issues, but understanding narcissism has given me a comfort.

Now love me! Then leave me alone.

Monday, September 28, 2015

Rainbow Dancer Cloud

After I took this iPhone sunset shot at my apartment complex, I was struck by how the top cloud triggered a stored memory of a similar shape of a cast Navajo Rainbow Dancer pin I bought a few years back. Here's a photo of said pin for comparison... 

Friday, September 25, 2015

Master Designer Charles Loupot

Charles Loupot (1892-1962) 

When Charles Loupot finished art school in Lyon in 1913, the first wave of French poster art was already history. Toulouse-Lautrec had died in 1901, Alfonse Mucha had left Paris, Eugene Grasset was almost forgotten, Jules Cheret was reported to be fed up with designing posters. There was yet no indication of a second, equally strong wave, and that Loupot would be one of it's leading figures, together with Cassandre, Carlu and Colin.

His beginnings, in Lausanne, Switzerland, were quite humble. In those times, clients often ordered their posters from a printer, who would in turn get suitable designs from artists. Apparently nobody was bothered when the same picture was used for two or even three different clients, and so we have, in 1917, an identical Loupot poster for a fashion shop in Lausanne and a department store in Lucerne.

However, Loupot's talent soon became obvious, and the number of commissions he received after 1918 for fashion and luxury goods makes it clear that his elegant and colorful designs were well sought after. By 1923 his reputation had reached Paris and he left Lausanne.

In 1924 the ''Canton'' furs store commissioned Loupot to create a new advertisement poster. (He created the first in 1919). The 1924 version features a beautiful woman, encased in a white fur against a black background.  In the 1930s, Canton ordered a second edition with a blue background and a third in 1949, also with a blue background, but with a new address at the bottom- 20 Rue de Bourg in Lausanne.